Posted by EightNine at August 16, 2010
A gentleman always knows how to bring a smile to his lady. First of all it is important to remember that ladies love nice things. If you taken the time to think about a thoughtful thing for them then they will respond in kind. They can normally tell when you are just sending something that is hastily created to keep them off balance. That is why you really need to be reflective and thoughtful about the things that you do for the ladies. In this article we explore some common themes. However you should not restrict your efforts to what we are discussing. There are plenty of other avenues where you can make an impact by choosing the right present for the lady in question. You will obviously have a much better understanding of the lady in question than I could ever imagine to posses. Therefore you should follow your instincts in some instances.
Flowers are the key to happiness
There is something about flowers that seems to lift a dull occasion into something absolutely wonderful. You can either use them on dinner table or you could sweep her away to a romantic weekend. The flowers have to be of an exceptional quality. Some ladies will come to the conclusion that the types of flowers that you are giving them are a direct reflection of the level of feelings that you have for them. If you choose the cheapest thing that you can find then you will know that the reaction will not be particularly pleasant. If you have been on a date then try to send some spectacular flowers with a lovely note about what you felt on the date. At the same time you have to be careful that you are not giving the impression that you are trying to show off. This is off putting for the ladies. Carefully place casual questions about her taste in flowers and make sure that you are following them when you send that thoughtful bouquet of flowers.
Timing and strategy
Ladies do not like to be rushed. If they feel that you are putting them in a corner they will flee away. That is the lesson that many men have learnt over the years. You need to be very patient. The lady will guide you as to the direction of the relationship. If she says that she is tired you must never answer back. That is the law and you have to live with it. Patience definitely pays when dealing with the ladies. At the same time you need to be alert to the signs. If the lady is happy for you to take the relationship to the next level, do not hang about like some clueless novice. These are opportunities that are rare indeed and you should take them when they come your way. It is all about giving the lady the freedom to choose the speed and direction of the relationship. If you enter the relationship at high speeds then you will exit it at high speeds as well. That is why it is important that you take things gently.
Listen to your lady
For some reason we completely forget to listen to our ladies. They say a number of things to us and we just nod back. You have to listen to the lady. Some of the communication that you will receive will not be direct. It is important that you are able to work out the clues and reach the kid of mutual agreement that will keep the lady happy. Do not expect that everything that a lady says will be direct and to the point. Sometimes they use subtlety and you need to be able to respond in the same subtle matter. Of course there are people that are just shy anyway. You should ensure that you are not putting them under undue pressure to respond to your needs. The jackpot is when you are able to work out what is going to happen before it even happens. As the relationship grows you will learnt to understand the different moods and perspectives of your lady. You will get a clue on what she likes and the things that irritate her. Do not just stop at picking up on these things. You need to put them in practice by behaving accordingly.
You will never be the ideal man
Quit trying to be the ideal man. This is a fantasy that is never going to see the light of the day. You present yourself in the best light possible and hope that your lady will like what she sees. There is no point in trying to pretend to be something that you are not. When she discovers the truth you will be in all sorts of trouble. Honesty is a very good policy when it comes to relationships. However displaying too much honesty on her appearance and age will get you a slap. You have to know when to keep your mouth firmly shut. Ladies can be very demanding but they can also be very loving. You have to be prepared for both sides of the coin. The relationship will go through phases and you might find that you are learning new things about one another each day that you spend together. That is the foundation of a long term relationship. Keep the mystery if you possibly can because it will keep the fire burning.
Unpredictability can be exciting
If you take her to the same restaurant every Wednesday for the six months of your relationship, it will soon become a chore. Ladies like mystery and surprises. You should be ready to give them that sort of thing on hand. If you do something and you feel that it is boring then it is a hundred times worse for her. Think of ways of making the relationship an ongoing adventure. As you spend more time in each other’s company there will come a time when you get so in tune that the need for excitement becomes secondary to the companionship. However in the initial stages of the relationship you have no option but to keep the excitement levels high up. This task will become much simpler if you share interests. The lady will be looking to you for support and companionship. These are things that you cannot really leave to chance. Many of the ladies that complain about their partners say that negligence and thoughtlessness are particular irritants.
Personal hygiene is a killer
If there is anything that is remotely wrong with your personal hygiene then your lady will be one of the first people to notice. If she is shy, she will just drop a few friendly hints. However poor personal hygiene is definitely a romance killer. People that are very good looking can become repellent if they have bad odour. A smelly mouth is a particular hindrance to kissing. You really must pay attention to these things. I would certainly advise the gym if you are a bit overweight. At least make sure that your lady knows that you are trying to impress her. If you are just relying on your looks to carry you through then you might end up alone. That is not a good prospect in any serious sense. You have to make sure that the hygiene part of your relationship is sorted. Contrary to some myths, dirt is not manly. It is just dirt.
I could write a book about the number of men that have gotten into serious trouble because of the birthday. This is a day that is full of embarrassment and expectation. On the one hand you do not want to draw attention to some unsavoury statistics but on the other hand you cannot afford to forget this important day. For some ladies this is a deal breaker and they will not hesitate to end the relationship if their partner fails to recognise their birthday. My personal advice is to remain sensitive to your lady. If you think that something will make her happy on her birthday then you need to do it. If you think that it will not then you need to stay away from it. When I buy birthday cakes I never mention the age once a person is beyond 27 years of age. I think that that is a very safe thing to do.
A smile begets a smile. If you are some miserable git then you will reap what you have sown. The happy camper will always get the lady. The smile transforms the face and a frown makes it older. You can really market yourself by having a positive outlook on life. If you are a positive person then you will make other people smile. Your lady will certainly appreciate someone that has a sense of humour. If you are as dull as dishwasher then you will be unceremoniously dumped into the sewers. There are many more things that you can do to put a smile on your lady’s face.